Dating: Nigerian Versus Oyibo Men... Round 2

Hey Bloggie!

Sorry for the long absence I've just been crazy busy. As promised, I’m hitting you with the disadvantages of both guys. Let’s get right to it shall we?

Nigerian Man

Disadvantages:

• Cooking meals for him is mostly an expectation. You’re expected to cook and do dishes. And because it’s an expectation, much gratitude doesn't follow.
• The anniversary and adventure things are mostly by luck. There are some Nigerian guys that care about things like these but a lot see it as too emotional plus it’s not what we grew up seeing. Now that everyone’s putting their entire affairs on social media, I’m sure awon girls are changing this thing.
• If his family is tribalistic, then you might have to apply brake before it turns into taboo something. It’s just very uncomfortable when you have people telling you things about your culture that aren't true but there’s nothing you can say to change their beliefs. You also have to worry about your family being tribalistic.
• Religion might also be a big deal when family is involved.
• When looking at long term, you might have to be concerned about the “you have to have a son for my child" routine that some mothers pull especially if he’s an only son.
• He might have the “I am the man of the house” mentality and that leaves little or no room for vulnerability, emotion and discussion.
• If you’re like me, you constantly worry that his extended and/or immediate family can be jazz infested people.
• He might be overly rooted in his culture and see yours as inferior.

Oyibo Man

Disadvantages:

• If his family is racist, my dear unless you fit guarantee say them no like the boy, pick your load dey run (don’t judge me, I never ready to die)!
• There are too many unexplained rules and unnecessary beating around the bush.
• He might have strained relationships with his family members for some unnecessary and silly reason. Seriously things like my brother hit me once when we were kids/he didn't let me play with his toys while we were growing are valid reasons to dissociate. Shoo?! Wetin we wey chop cane and blow go talk?
• He might be overly emotional. Una fit dey compete for who go cry pass.
• He might have some undiagnosed and/or diagnosed mental ailments (crase no dey show for face) like “trigger words syndrome” (maybe Nigerians have it too but I’m yet to meet someone with this issue). If you use words like crazy and retarded, he’s fine. But once you say mad, heaven must come down.
• His hygiene might be awful! Not saying we don’t have dirty Nigerian guys o but those ones you can call them out on it and Nigerian guys know how to save face. But if you’re the lucky winner of dirty oyibo jackpot, there’ll be no saving face and you go get am full force.
• He mostly uses the silent treatment as a means to break up or end friendships. Not saying one should yell the thing but at least if the thing is not working for you anymore, tell person no just keep quiet ignore person and think say person no go worry. I've noticed it in older and younger guys. They never seem to shed it. True true, the thing be like film show.
• You have to be mindful of what you cook as there can be allergies, dietary and spice restrictions. If you no mind your pepper level, you fit dey sing “oyibo pepper” often.  
• You can’t have that raw Nigerian romance. Still can't explain it, but for example in this song, there are words Omawumi uses that don't sound as sweet in English. Check it out 

My favorite part of the video is when she has her finger in her mouth. Classic Nigerian I've messed up move J

These are all the things I could think of. Of course both men have some things in common that I haven't mentioned at all and some advantages and disadvantages that speak for themselves. I have to say it was a lot of fun writing these and hopefully I didn't come off as biased. 

Adios Bloggie!

Tonia